One of my least favorite roles of parenting was that of observer to the temper tantrum. Even now, although my sons are 24 and 21, I can remember those days like it was yesterday. I felt helpless and lost. Everything I tried to help calm them never worked. I'd threaten, bargain, tease, anything to get them to stop. Over the years I have learned that the power of a tantrum is fueled by questions and comments. I have changed my practice to now move a child to a safe space and say, "When you need me, I'm right here." This approach has had a much higher level of success. There's no doubt I am gonna be a much better bubbe than I was a momma!
This article shares a study that explains the process of a tantrum.
Deconstructing Temper Tantrums
