Created B'Tzelem Elohim, "In the Image of God"

Within each child lies a spark of divinity, as we are created B'Tzelem Elohim, "In the Image of God." Every child is special, and deserves the chance to to find their spark. Follow their lead, as their interests may become their gifts.

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Raising Children with Self Control

I recieved this text the other day from my son Dan:  "NPR is talking about the importance of self control in preschoolers."  Gotta love my son. From the time he was 4 he wanted to be president.  At 6 he told his teacher that instead of making 1 paper apple for the class tree he wanted to make 5.  He told her "I'm a Jensen, and we do more." He used his Bar Mitzvah money to buy a PDA in order to stay "organized."  At 15 he was a regular reader of Entrepreneur and Success magazines. At 18 he was researching websites to best seek out truth in journalism.  Getting this text wasn't such a surprise.  My only concern was that he had pulled the car over to the side of the road before he wrote it. 
I digress...back to my story.  :)

NPR was discussing a longitudinal study from New Zealand (linked below) which suggests that self-control in young children can predict adult success, and that preschool children who struggle with self control are three times more likely to struggle as young adults.

These kinds of reports tend to make me nervous.  Why?  Because they tend to make parents anxious.  After reading this, some of you may worry that you are not giving your children enough opportunities to practice self control.  You may see your natually impulsive 3 year old daughter in a different light, worried that her inability to wait quietly in line at the grocery store may lead her to a life of crime and self-destruction.  Shhh, relax my friends.  It's all good.  Today's message is:

Young children are impulsive. 
It's on their job description, right under "curious and sometimes bossy to other siblings."

The role of the caregivers in the life of these children is to understand their levels of impulsivity and create environments that support them.  A few tips for you:

1.  Understand that children are able to sit and listen to you for a short period of time before they get bored.  Shorten the time you expect them to sit, or create a more active and exciting experience for them.

2.  When standing in line at the grocery store, remember that if they are busy, all is good!  Play little games, like "I am thinking of a color", or "can you find the book on the shelf with the number 4 on it?" or, my personal favorite "which celebrity on that magazine got a face lift?"   :)

3.  Offer your child opportunities to take care of themselves and others. When you come home from school, your child can give the dog his water before going to play. In the morning, 2 year olds can put their  jammies away and the pillows back on the bed.  At 3 you can add a little more to the list.  Challenging a 3 year old with making the bed, teeth brushing, getting dressed and coming to breakfast is too much to expect.  Pick one chore, teach it, allow them to succeed at it for a while, then add another.

Enjoy the article.  Remember you can post questions in the comment box.  However, if you prefer, you are always free to email me at playforaliving@gmail.com, or follow me on Twitter:  playforaliving. 


Thursday, February 10, 2011

Help Wanted: Kids with Creativity

Last spring, IBM ran a most impressive study of 1500 CEO's from 60 countries.  One of the key points identified from their study is that in order to compete in the world today - and tomorrow - our leaders will need a strong sense of creativity.  And they don't mean people who can color inside the lines.

From the study, we learned that creative leaders:

 
Creative leaders are higly innovative and use that to change business models.

Expect to make more new business model changes to realize their strategies
(Maybe this is the child who makes a birthday card by using scraps of paper, tearing and gluing and stapling and taping, all the while looking for things around the house that might help embellish the card as well.)

Are highly innovative and use that to change business models
(Possibly the 3 year old that appears to live in the block center.  He encourages his friends to join him in making a tower, but upon realizing (visioning) they don't have enough blocks, suggests they build a boat instead.)

Invite discruptive innovation, and invite others to join them
(Perhaps the preschooler who gets up during circle time to see the bird at the window, calls to their friends to join, and suggests they make an INSIDE bird feeder so the birds can come into the class.)

Are courageous and visonary enough to change the status quo
(Have you ever seen a boy in a pink tutu?)

I've attached the article for you. It's time to rethink how we teach our children.


Thursday, February 3, 2011

A lesson from Jeremy's Grampa's house

"... I have observed over and over again that young children who are intellectually engaged in worthwhile investigations, begin to ask for help in using academic skills- for example, writing and counting,-in the service of their intellectual goals.” ~ Lillian Katz


With all this discussion on how children learn, I thought you might want to see what it would look like in action. Below is a section from a book I am working on. In this letter, the director is writing to her lifelong mentor about an experience that happened in one of her 4 year old classrooms.

Dear Marci,

Wow, what a month! Mrs. W.’s class had a true emergent learning experience! From the initial interest right down to the documentation, every step was beautifully done! You are going to love this.

Jeremy Booker came back from winter break and told everyone about photos he found at his Grampa’s house. He brought one in for us. Turns out they were photos of the Northern Lights. The children started to get very excited about the idea of Northern Lights (since that’s the name of our school) and started talking all at once. Most of the children didn’t have any past experiences to draw from, but Leah told the class that her daddy saw the lights, too, before she was in mommy’s tummy. At this point, both Mrs. W. and her assistant Kaycee decided that this could be a pretty interesting course of study. Kaycee started writing things she overheard the children say in class, and Mrs. W. went straight to the reference library for some books. She shared the book Northern Lights A to Z by Mindy Dwyer. Afterwards, she asked for the “what do you know’. Here’s some of what they told her:

  • It’s not really lights, but stars
  • God colors them in before they fall
  • They took the name from the school’s name (loved that one!)
  • The clouds hold them until its time
  • They are really rain
  • Sometimes its purple or green or blue but never black. Black is nighttime.
Then Mrs. W. dropped the subject, and she and Kaycee simply watched the children over the next few hours. Jeremy took the book and began comparing the illustrations to the photo he’d brought.

Several of the children started to draw or paint their interpretation of the lights. Kaycee overheard the children talking about the lights in both the block area and dramatic play.

Based upon what she observed, Mrs. W. determined there was enough interest to continue the study. Emailing the staff and parents, she shared what happened, and asked for any ideas they might have. (yep, she asked the parents for ideas. I LOVE her! )

Then so many cool things happened:

The next day Mrs. W. brought in some flashlights. She showed them to the children and asked how they how they would like to use them. After they played with the on/off button for what seemed like forever, the children began to have questions. They wanted to know if they could make the beam of light that came from the flashlight a color other than white. They began to experiment by covering the light part with construction paper, paint, and tissue paper.

Devon’s dad brought in a telescope, which added an interest in looking at the sky. Some of the children wanted to make their own telescopes, so that became the next little project. Mrs. W. encouraged them to draw out their plans before building them, so the children designed their telescopes first. Their drawings were incredibly detailed.

The teachers decided that this would be a great time to observe and support the children’s play. They put aside their lesson plans and became facilitators. For example, in the block center, some of the boys were building a tower. They were focused on making it as high as possible. At one point, they had pulled a chair out and were about to stand on it. Kaycee asked them if they needed her help and they announced that they wanted to make their “ladder” bigger and take it outside so they could touch the lights when  they come back around. Building stopped while they discussed how far the sun and the sky were from the school. When the children determined that there were not enough blocks left in the room to make the ladder reach the sky, and that the ceiling was going to get in their way, they decided to go just try and make the ladder as long as they could. They took the project into the hall, and continued building!

Jeremy’s mom came in and explained that the lights are not really lights but particles from the sun that get trapped in the magnetic energy when they fall near the earth. The children were surprised that particles meant dust, and began speculating how the sun gets dust on it. “Is rain when the sun takes a tubby?” Great question!

Leah’s dad’s story made quite an impression on the children. He explained that he saw the lights when he was living in Montana, (which took the children on a little side study of the U.S. map.) He told them shared that he was walking down the street one night and was surprised by the lights up above. He said it looked like God was shaking a blanket of color over the sky. Someone asked him if he took a picture and he told them no but that he would remember it in his heart forever. Wow. Mrs. W. said the children simply stared at him and nodded their heads in understanding. After he left, some of the boys started showing each other how to shake a blanket to make the colors wave. Jason began making up stories of what he would do if he was walking all alone down the street. (Gotta love how some kids see different perspectives of a story!)

Prompted by this story, children wanted to make blankets of color. The weaving tool, which hardly gets any use, became a staple in the classroom, and we actually had to buy more loops!

Kaycee showed a few children that if they punched holes in a black sheet of construction paper and lifted it to the light, it looked a little like the night sky. This new idea was a winner with several children who practiced hole punching and scissor cutting. One child cut out a large portion of the black paper and decided to lay it on top of green paper to make the colored sky. All the children were excited about this and began to replicate her idea.

Leah’s mom brought in some crepe paper, and the children told Kaycee how to arrange it on the ceiling to make the colors “shake”.

One of the little girls asked if birds could get hurt when this happened….wow! Another question that needed research… (P.S. No.)

Teachers took and posted photos every day. They ran a slideshow on their computer so the children could revisit them whenever they wanted. They also put posters with some of the photos and representations along the hallway by their classroom so that rest of the school could share in their learning.

Marci, This process of discovery has gone on for almost 4 weeks! The classroom and the hallways look like an astronomy museum. There are paintings and drawings created with fingerpaints, paint brushes, crayons, markers, Qtips, and marbles. One child decided to use string to replicate the strands of light. The other teachers are now interested in doing this with their class. There’s a different, more powerful excitement around here! I think some people just needed to see it in order to believe it could. I am thrilled to bits. Can’t wait to see what happens next!